Published on October 8th, 2013 | by manty15
Is wearing pantyhose considered as cross-dressing?!
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Many women looking at the mantyhose as a cross-dressing habit, which makes sense because thinking of their partner / man wearing a pair of 20 Deniers on their legs could lead to the thinking of him, potentially wearing heels, skirts, bras etc.
Pantyhose is often associated with skirts/dresses because women would wear them more often with those on. So they would automatically associate it with cross-dressing. “If I let him wear hosiery, then he might come up to me one day with a skirt on and heels…” – Let’s make it clear, there are 3 kinds of pantyhose wearers:
- The men that wear pantyhose because of a medical condition
- The men that wear pantyhose because of its benefits (Warmth, blood circulation increase, comfort…)
- And the men that wear them as a fetish.
Taking the first 2 categories out, the fetishism side of it can be defined in many subcategories (Cross-dressing, sexual acts wearing them, SM and more). Women’s would potentially put you in that 3rd category believing that you wear them to fulfill your fetishism and could open the door to having their long life partner become somebody else, which of course they are not ready for.
While many could use pantyhose as part of a cross-dressing outfit, this is again preconceived ideas that require a conversation with your partner so you can be open about the topic and be ready to face those questions or explain where you want to go with it.
Telling my partner that I wear them for medical reasons or for its benefits from preventing your legs to be cold won’t scare her off but she might expect you to take them off prior to a sexual act or worst, advise you to wear long-johns! If this happens, make sure to let her know that if she had to choose between wearing her grand-mother cotton panties or the latest Victoria Secrets boxers in lycra/nylon, what would she pick? It’s then the same for us, men…
If you tell her that you just enjoy wearing pantyhose because of the sensation it gives you and how much it turns you on seeing her wearing them could be helping if you consider wearing them while having sex but she has to understand that you are fantasizing on her + you wearing them, touching/crossing your legs/feet in pantyhose, procuring you a next level of excitement but she is and will remain your fantasy, not the stockings!
And finally, if you belong to the cross-dressing category but is a straight person, having the conversation will of course be trickier. As I was reading a lot of blogs and articles, this is a very common behavior. You might have been hiding for years and as the years go by, you might be looking for an increased rush of wearing pantyhose, which might be leading to wearing more women’s garments such as bras, panties, heels, skirts, dresses, put on make up etc. Having your partner find out about it might turn down your relationship because of how it can be a shocker for her to see it.
She will not see you as the same person if you haven’t told her up front, she might be taking you for a bi or gay person because of it, she might be thinking that you are not “the man” that she once dated etc. So I would suggest you try to work it on your end. She doesn’t need to know about it unless you are 100% sure she is understanding and will be accepting it (you would then be with the 1% of those who would!) and try to change this habit by focusing more on your partner. Turn this cross-dressing need into an open conversation with your partner telling her that you enjoy wearing pantyhose and would love her to try to be open to it and bring on your best sexual behavior when it comes to it. Try to give her a reason for accepting it and hopefully one day she will be asking you to wear them! At which point, you might not need to cross-dress as much as you did.
Most important is that she knows that she is your #1, she is your priority, Pantyhose is just an accessory – a sexual boost for you but without her, it can’t be.
Cross-dressing is, has and will happen, now if you want to keep it secret, you might be get cut because of the need of increased rush either by doing it more often, or cheating on her or whatever else. If you want to keep your partner, you need to work on making it less of a priority and making your relationship your main focus. Cross-dressing is selfish and only satisfies your need, when an improved sexual life with your partner can fulfill both your needs and hers but also improve both of your lives being satisfied with each other.
What do you think?